Become the Strongest Version of Yourself
Over the past few years, I’ve slowly started becoming more and more obsessed with building the ultimate and strongest body that my genetics will allow me to have as a human being. For the last 3 or 4 years, my weight training has been a roller coaster full of ups and downs. From being in a serious obsessive state, to a more casual and healthy lifestyle and back to serious training again. It wasn’t until a few months ago that I started thinking that there might be more to developing the strongest version of myself in terms of what I can do PHYSICALLY vs what I can do and what I know MENTALLY.
For those who have known me personally over the years or are getting to know me more as a person, you all know that I’m obsessed with fitness and health. It doesn’t matter whether it’s tracking nutrients that I eat, to weight training, blogging etc. I love the fitness lifestyle and being apart of it. I’ve always been there to give out advice, whether it’s to newcomers or even intermediate and more advanced people who want to increase their knowledge of nutrition or exercise.
I’ve always talked about building the “ultimate body.” To become as strong as your genetics will allow and look physically amazing to everyone as well. But I’ve never given much thought to the ‘mental’ aspect of things. It doesn’t matter how you look in life, or how much you can lift, if you’re a complete jackass as a human being, you will always be that way no matter what. I’m sure everyone has heard the “Life is short, live while you can” (or whatever people say) and 99% of people I know live by those words. So they go out and constantly party, do drugs, spend money that they shouldn’t be spending on expensive items and clothing, you know…all that YOLO (you only live once) stuff.
It wasn’t until a man by the name of Elliot Hulse came into my life that completely changed the way I think and do things. He also talks about becoming the strongest version of yourself, but not only physically, but mentally. He taught me that life isn’t short like most people think it is. It may seem short, because of all the time you spend with your friends and family in the moment, but what happens when you decide to settle down? What happens when you decide to have a family and grow away from those people and then life slowly starts to slow to a crawl? (Read his blog here)
It has been drilled into my head that life is a slow journey. The mindset that I had a few months or even weeks ago has changed drastically in the blink of an eye. I’ve decided not to live by the “life is short” phrase, (not that I ever did) but I’ve opened my mind to realize that life is actually slow. Though it IS true that life can end at any minute, we ALSO have to put thought into “what if it doesn’t?” We have another good 50-60 years to go (if you’re around my age) Why not experience different versions of yourself? Why not try to “grow” and change as a person and make goals for yourself?
IF you don’t like the way you look, why not change it? You ARE NOT stuck like that.
IF you’re unskilled and want to be good at something, why not go for it?
IF people hate you for your personality, IT’S NEVER LATE TO CHANGE.
Alot of people that I know, are becoming TOO comfortable with the way they are living. Not that there is anything wrong with that. But I recently read an email that a buddy of mine sent me that has had a tremendous impact to my life. I’m going to share it with you.
The email was about this little girl, she was about 7 or 8 years old. One day when she was walking with her mom in the mall and she saw these pearl earrings in the window of a jewelry store. She really wanted them, but her mom said that they were too expensive and that she can have a pair of fake earrings that looked exactly like the real ones if she worked hard, did chores and saved up. So the girl did chores for weeks and had finally saved up enough money to purchase the earrings herself. The day she got the earrings she was so excited that she had to wear them. She wore them all of the time. Now a few weeks passed and her dad came up to her one day and asked, “baby girl, can I have those earrings and in exchange I’ll give you something?” The girl replied with “daddy but I worked so hard for these, I did chores and I waited for months to get these, sorry but I can’t give these up.” The dad said okay and he left her alone. A few days later he asked the same thing, and the girl replied with the same answer. A few weeks went by and he asked her again and she still replied with the same answer. Then one day her dad came home to see her crying and he asked her what was wrong and she said that she did a lot of thinking and she is going to give these up because she loved him. As soon as she gave him the fake earrings, he went into his room and pulled out a box and inside the box was a set of REAL genuine pearl earrings. He said: “remember when I asked you for these fake earrings? Well I had the real ones waiting for you this whole time. But because you weren’t willing to give me those fake ones, I couldn’t give you the real things.” The message behind this story was that; she wasn’t willing to give up something that she worked hard for, not knowing that there was something better out there for her. What changed my life is that I realized that some things that I worked hard for and now i’m accustomed to and getting comfortable with i’m not sure I want to give up. But it isn’t the thought of losing what I have now if I let go, it’s what i might be missing out on and what i might never experience that will eat me alive more.
TAKE THE RISK. CHANGE IT ALL. I CHALLENGE TO YOU TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH CONSTANTLY BEING “UNCOMFORTABLE” WITH YOUR LIFE. THAT IS THE KEY TO BUILDING THE STRONGEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.